Parties and Charm counters
It is a shame people call out others that aren't spending enough to suit them at parties... this sounds a bit juvenile in itself! There are certain times I have tons of party passes (that I have earned indirectly) and not a lot of Gems as well as times I have Gems and no passes., For a long time I would Not attend a party unless I had plenty of gems to share but then I noticed that I got many invites to parties where I proudly stood up front knowing I could keep up with the big dogs if you will.....then it occurred to me I was carrying the party...I started feeling like a chump, a bit taken advantage of because I was becoming known to drop a couple 1000 gems and I didn't mind until I realized I was carrying the better part of the buying. I have a comfortable income that allowed me to spend but the situation made me feel used,,,,,So for a long time I didn't attend any parties! Now when I do I spend but I use a little better judgement. Iv'e always been a giver and had no qualms about what others gave or didn't give..I agree that there are people out there who just don't have the funds and its sad that they are being put in the limelight. This site is a comfort and an outlet for all of us being stuck at home during this epidemic, we should be more loving and understanding. After all but for the Grace of God there go I....Be humble and gracious, it could be your Gramma, your Grandfather or just the neighbor who has no humane connection but for sites like these. Find Peace in your heart not judgement.........
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THIS IS PARTIALLY TRUE BUT THERE ARE SOME WHO FOR MONTHS WILL GET PASSES AND NEVER BUY EVER AND JUST TAKE UP ROOM FOR SOMEONE WHO WOULD LIKE TO GO TO PARTY TO PARTICIPATE BUT CAN NOT GET IN BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON OR PERSONS AND THERE ARE SOME WHO WILL NOT BUY AT CERTAIN PARTIES SAVING THEIR GEMS FOR A BIGGER PARTY . THESE PEOPLE ARE NOW BEING NOTICED AND UNFORTUNATELY HUMAN NATURE BEING WHAT IT IS THEY ARE NOW VOICING THEIR CONCERNS AND TRYING TO MOTIVATE THAT PERSON TO PARTICIPATE IN PARTY
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ok Sweetie Peace Out!
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You're right I loveBcup. Parties should be about fun and there is no rule about purchasing charms. We all are fools in a way, spending hundreds of gems to get a few gems in return, if any.
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When entering the party you agree to spend a certain amount of gems. Most people attending don't spend the required amount. I think CW should monitor who does not hold up to their agreement to buy the charms and suspend them from attending parties for at least a week. I agree with Peggy and Akita there are too many freeloaders who attend these parties. I'm not saying they have to spend a lot of gems, just buy the required amount of charms they agreed to purchase with when they entered the party!
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I noticed that with one other commenter, you cant find their profile, cant remember the name now, next time it happens i will tag it and your right on this one Emma2789 doesn't exist...odd so who really posted it? lol
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Ilovebcupgirls, you are correct. I read the message wrong when entering the parties. Thank you for pointing that out in such a friendly manner. FYI - my avatar's name is Laura and Emma in CW, in Vegas World I'm Emma 2789. I don't know why the system only uses Emma2789 on these screens. Hope this helps.
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IloveBcupGirls - even though I don't like the freeloader name calling, no need to be nasty to ladies and if she was an employee she would know the rules, please be more respectful to the ladies ok? i don't like seeing men being rude to women, she could be a kid for all you know.
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Why keep advertising a party is still go on and then get there when the "party" is completely over? You spend passes or gems to enter and it is over?
This happened to me 5 times yesterday! They tell me you don't use passes but I see the amount of party passes decrease and not increase when party was over when I entered!
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I know I get a lot of requests to join a party that is already over. One time I hosted a party and 14 minutes after it busted someone sent me a request to go to my own party. I go early now before they start as if you don't and get sent to overflow them rarely bust
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I do not attend the "no freeloader" parties. Just tonight, I attended a party where we had "gem" police.....The guy was getting rude.......I am just going to start blocking people that act like this.....If I am low on gems I usually grab and go. We all have days ya' gotta "tighten up"" the gem belt!!!!!
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Everyone should look to their own moral code as to who you friend, which parties you go to, and how you act at those parties and on game sites. Certainly as many have already said, there are a lot of players on Flowplay sites who are retired, disabled, or low income, and don't have money for VIP, buying gems, etc. I definitely believe we should be aware of who they are, be kind to them, help them if we are able, and not shame them at parties. Many describe their life status on their profile pages, although I'm sure not all of them do.
There are many Grab and Go parties currently, which are very good for these folks, as well as for times when any player has passes but is temporarily low on gems. Just remember, once you've grabbed your charms you need to go. Staying if you don't intend to/can't gift is not fair to those who will be. There are also a decent number of high level players, seemingly comfortable financially, who regularly hold low entry cost parties open to everyone. They often give out a number of high value charms and make sure the party busts.
While I believe we should be kind and lenient toward those less fortunate, I really don't like freeloaders, who I define as players who attend many parties, including those where high value charms are being given, and never gift anything or very little. I don't think most of them are the low income people mentioned above, although some may be. The freeloaders may or may not have money to spend, but the ones that do WON'T, because they're happy to try and ride on the coattails of others, apparently without any guilt. They often hide in the back or behind the crowd, then bully, cheer-lead, guilt-trip, or otherwise try to get others to bust a party, while they contribute nothing. This is morally reprehensible, but unfortunately these types of people exist in every area of life. If you dislike this kind of behavior, don't friend them, block them from attending your parties, and in general try to stay as far away from them as possible.
Party hosts who require a certain charm or number of items be gifted are just trying to protect themselves from freeloaders or people who want to get 26 high level charms, but only contribute one or a few of the lowest level ones. I don't have a problem with any host setting gift requirements, as long as they state it in their party listing. That way, if you don't like what they're doing, or don't want to abide by the host's requirements, you can just avoid going to their parties. There are plenty of others with no requirements. Be careful not to respond to any friends' party invitations unless you know what the host expects from you before you go. Also, be sure and read the host's About Me on their profile, as some list the terms of their parties there.
I think a good rule of thumb when going to a party, unless the host specifies otherwise, is that you plan to and are able to buy at least one charm of the same value as the ones you get for attending. Adjust upward if the party's for multiple charms. No, you don't HAVE to do this, but it is good etiquette and shows respect for the host and the other guests. IMO it's very disrespectful to go to a high entry level charm party, and contribute only low value items. At many high level charm parties, some people will buy one of the entry charms first, then switch to buying multiples of lower value items, which is usually acceptable. If you're not familiar with your host, watch them and the other guests to know whether it's ok to do this.
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"There are many Grab and Go parties currently, which are very good for these folks, as well as for times when any player has passes but is temporarily low on gems. Just remember, once you've grabbed your charms you need to go. Staying if you don't intend to/can't gift is not fair to those who will be. There are also a decent number of high level players, seemingly comfortable financially, who regularly hold low entry cost parties open to everyone. They often give out a number of high value charms and make sure the party busts. "
Wow, I completely disagree with this, just ridiculous. If you go into a GNG party you are not expected to buy any charms, that's the whole point. If people decide to buy charms good on them but it doesn't cost anything if "freeloaders" stick around and get those charms for free, there is nothing "unfair" about it. If you don't like that then don't attend GNG parties, stick to regular parties. For the record, if I am in a GNG and the charms start flying I contribute what I can but I don't judge anyone who doesn't, there is a reason they are in a GNG party in the first place. Regular parties I somewhat agree with you but not GNG's.
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Tickle, GNG is the abbreviation for "Grab and Go". The name says it all. You pay your entry fee, receive the charms given out at the beginning of the party, then leave. You don't need to buy anything more to get the initial amount of charms. If you stick around with the expectation that some people will throw gifts, knowing full well that you don't intend to do the same, that is not GNG.
I don't believe in pressuring anyone to buy or buy specific items at my parties, and I will block/boot anyone who tries to tell other guests that they have to. I do however believe there are rules of etiquette, courtesy and fair play that people should follow voluntarily out of respect for themselves, their host and fellow guests, not because they are required to. It's really sad that old-fashioned values like courtesy and respect are in such short supply in today's world, having been replaced by anger, hatred, and selfishness. Continually taking from those who are willing and able to give, without feeling any need to reciprocate when you are able to do so, is morally reprehensible.
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Ya, we're going to totally disagree on this one.
As far as I'm concerned if you are at a party with no expectation that people will buy charms then there should be no expectation that people buy charms and they shouldn't have to immediately leave either. If someone wants to buy charms at one of those parties then good for them but it doesn't cost them any more or less based on how many people are remaining in the room. This is your rule that you want to impose on others, others don't necessarily agree with you and that doesn't mean they are wrong.
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