✨ CHARM PARTIES ~ My Philosophy & Encouragement
INTRO:
Hello Everyone!
As we all know & have experienced, there are a many comments & suggestions regarding charm parties which are always worthy of dialog, provided it causes no ill will or negativity towards others. Unfortunately, a few of these discussions have been met with controversy & negativity, to the point of creating animosity between ourselves & even groups of friends, & it is a shame, especially when we know we can try to do a little better. Because we operate within our 'virtual' CW community, it's easier to misinterpret the intentions of others & create miscommunications (I will be the first to admit my shortcomings). It's in my belief we should always try to approach others with an open mind & heart. Although I am admittedly far from being perfect, I still try to respect the diversity & differences within our virtual communities, to & including the types of parties hosted, the guest's interaction within these parties & community as a whole, as well as the multitude of other factors & complexity within our individual experiences & interactions overall.
SCOPE:
The intention of publishing this article is not to judge others, or criticize anyone whatsoever. I simply wanted to share the experiences that have worked well with me within my short tenure of 10 months on CW, & to let you all know my take on the game. I encourage & welcome feedback, however I will respectfully request everyone to please be thoughtful, open, & respect all viewpoints. There are no right or wrong answers here. More importantly, nobody or their specific parties should ever be called out or put into question here. This is not the intention whatsoever, so any form of negativity will not be accepted. Please respect my suggestions for allowing us to keep it positive; try to be sincere & constructive with our comments & contributions. Thanks! :D
PHILOSOPHY:
When I throw a party, regardless if it is to be a standard party, Grab and Go, themed parties, challenges, or whatever, ALL ARE ALWAYS WELCOME. There are NO obligations, NO pressure on my guests, & NO expectations that any of my parties will bust. My agenda is hoping those who attend will have a positive & enjoyable experience, & will be encouraged to come back to visit because of the atmosphere I have intended to create. By the way, the last time I checked, parties are suppose to be fun anyway... Just sayin' :D
With this being said, there is a catch however... There are three assumed rules regarding behavior everyone must follow in my parties without exception. This will always begin with me, making sure I'm setting the right tone & example.
They are:
1 - Always be nice.
2 - If one does not have anything nice to say, then please don't say anything at all, or please simply leave.
3 - Refer to rules 1 & 2.
There is NEVER an expected obligation or pressure put on any of my guests to purchase & 'throw' charms. My parties are meant to be inclusive, upbeat, open, & friendly. My hope is that someone walks away smiling & felt like they were welcomed & inclusive to the party environment, regardless of their individual status and/or situation.
If any of my parties do not happen to bust, I have discovered the sun will still rise in the morning. I am here to have fun & not take this game so seriously. If it ever comes to a point I have allowed a situation to cause a negative impact on myself or others, then perhaps I need to seek another form of entertainment & enjoyment. If I am the host, then I am ultimately responsible & accountable for what happens in the first place. I do not allow others or situations control what I do here on CW (or in real life) & to be quite honest, it's simply not worth time to worry so much about the negativity at all. I will make the effort to ensure there isn't anything I am doing to cause reasons to have any issues, but also embrace the reality you are unable to control the behavior of others. I am grateful that I should never be able to in the first place, as the only person I need to worry about is the gal I see in the mirror each morning. The rest will fall into place if I am honest with myself. Even at the end of the day, this is simply just a game after all & I will try not to allow it to interfere with the friendships & wonderful support I have been honored & trusted with. The total amount of coins, passes, gems, or charms accumulated are meaningless in comparison with my true fortune, cherished with friendship & community I have been so lucky to be a small part of. This is what 'winning big' means to me. My individual philosophy is contrary to me worrying about whether a party will bust or not, or being overly concerned with who is 'tossing' charms.
I share no judgement or negative comments for those who chose to have various standards within their parties. In fact, I enjoy attending those other parties, especially if they are my friends & I am able to encourage & support them in any way. They have their style and ways which are comfortable for them & I am happy they have been successful. When I choose to attend any party, I am expected to honor the host's wishes & rules, using those 'three rules', the same as if I were hosting. If there happens to be a party that doesn't suit my individual liking, I will simply make the choice not to attend & kindly move on, without making negative commentary, comments, or criticism about the host or their particular party publicly. This includes calling out others on here, posting negative remarks on my profile or on other profiles, or making negative remarks at other parties. I don't see how doing so could possibly serve any constructive purpose, other than create animosity & hard feelings between people.
I also must respect the decisions for those who may not agree with my philosophy, thought processes, or the way I host parties as well. It's all about having the freedom of choices, always trying to be respectful by seeking a higher path, & having the ability in creating your own way of doing things as you so desire, provided the intentions reflect a comfortable atmosphere & genuine in nature, without eliciting harm or ill will towards others, their friends, or groups.
ENCOURAGEMENT:
So, the great news is I have been here for 10 months now, & have had very little to any problems with literally hundreds upon hundreds of guests & friends. They've all been super, & the parties have been fun, upbeat, positive, & inclusive as I have envisioned them to be. Regardless of entrance fees (minus big ticket GnG parties), the vast majority of these parties will bust within a minute or two, with additional charms usually following after each bust, all of which are never expected & very nice. The charms presented to each other as personal gifts have also been very thoughtful & warm. The creation of such an environment didn't simply happen overnight. It took time to earn trust from others & cultivate an environment such as this. I take very little credit as I have very gracious, generous, & experienced friends who have been (& still are) wonderful mentors & trusted advisers who have always been there for me. They have dedicated their time to share their knowledge & are in my corner in times when I have questions & concerns. They have also helped me overcome minor frustrations & obstacles throughout my journey (most of them being 'self-inflicted' I must confess).
Of course there have been those very rare unfortunate incidents that do happen, however these are addressed & vanquished quite swiftly, rarely worthy of a second glance. Eventually, most problems can be resolved through some understanding, with the willingness to communicate constructively, in tandem with mutual respect & openness to other's viewpoints. It is also noteworthy to mention having the grace & courage to forgive mistakes, shortcomings, & misunderstandings is never out of style, in which I will always seek to be better at.
CONCLUSION:
For me, it's all about using common sense, keeping it light, fun, & simple by trying to make good choices, with the desire in wanting to be a decent person. Again, we're all individually unique & have our own variety, styles, & comfort zones. No one is more superior, inferior, right, or wrong. We walk together side-by-side in my world. I wanted to share what has worked well for me, & perhaps help some of you in promoting some thought within your gaming experience & journey on CW.
Win big, keep it fun, & always try to be kind. :)
Cheers!
:DW
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I think some people tend to take this stuff too seriously. After all, they are just a bunch of games and everyone has free will to do what they want. It's supposed to be for fun. Fearful about stalking? Don't engage in chats. Don't like GNGs or 'must throw' parties? Don't attend. Why do people have to be a$$holes? Perhaps they are in real life. Ignore them. It's just that simple. My time on here has been fun. I choose to engage when I want. However, people not participating in Parties is my pet peeve. I know I'm guilty of it on occasion, but I always try to contribute something in every Party. Rant over. Play on and win!
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Hi Brondie -
Thank you (and you are not ranting!)
It goes back to community and how one will participate within. It's quite remarkable how our virtual world emulates our 'real life' society as a whole. 'give 'n take'.. for whatever reasons... We are also fortunate to have the freedom of choice as well. I try to make efforts to simplify those choices. If there is someone or something intending to pose a potential adverse impact, then I choose to stay clear & move on.
I have discovered the only one I can change is myself as I have no control over others; it's more of a burden in trying to do so anyway. My goodness, I have more than enough work to do on myself as it is, without worrying about what others do or think about me. ;)
I am very happy you are doing well & keeping it fun!
Cheers!
:DW
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You are so appreciated Denise. You always provide great advise and uplifting encouragement. You really make being part of the CW family wonderful. We appreciate the time and effort that you give. Keep doing what you do. Blessings to you, my friend.
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Hi MamaDuke n Brady -
What a thoughtful & wonderful thing to say!
Thank you so much! :DW
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Hi Denise,
There's nothing more I can't agree with. I have been here exactly 1 month and have learnt a lot regarding the games and how the "social" aspect works in parties.
It was fun when I started with a trial VIP until this one person called me out multiple times in multiple parties. Names calling and such then a block in the end on my 1st week of playing. Was a bit bummed wondering why a game that's supposed to be fun will get so much negativity.
There was also a host that blocked me because I said ty to someone and not the host, didn't even got to saying thanks and got booted out of the party.
It was a bit uncalled for, don't even have gems to share. Now I've learnt to just ignore those negative people and look positive. After all it's only a game, the big win as you said is the people whom I meet.Thank you so much for your thoughts.
Have a good day
-NG
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Hi Night Guy -
Thank you for your reply & sorry you had to go through some unpleasantries. I can confidently speak for the majority of folks on here in welcoming you and hoping you will have some brighter charm party experiences. You are not alone; we have all been new and have seen our share of some of the negativity on here.
Please continue to seek and you will find super nice people on here. Sincere friendships take time to cultivate, so continue to be patient, keep it fun, and explore. Always feel free to ask for help & guidance as well.
I hope the article has provided some insight and encouragement for you. Continue to take the high road and stay positive; you are doing all the right things!
Cheers! :DW
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Well said, Denise. Thank you for taking the time.
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